blame

""My attitude toward the insect world is live and let live. If a bug doesn’t bother me, I won’t bother it. But early every fall, my equanimity disappears. At that time of year, when I walk on warm afternoons, I’m besieged by tiny flying insects that hang like fog in the sunlit air. They drive me crazy as I hurry along, unable to avoid getting them in my mouth, nose, eyes and hair.

The other day I was walking with a friend who seemed unaffected by the hovering winged plague. Finally, tired of my groans and batting of the air, he said, “They’re not doing it on purpose.”

“What’s that supposed to mean?” I growled.

“It means that they’re minding their own business, sunning themselves, doing what they do.""

In this instance the author is "Blaming" the insects for the trouble he/she is being caused, its obvious the insects are not to blame, its his/her own responsibility to feel what he/she feels. How often do we miss taking responsibility for what are emotions are making us feel, and instead of taking ownership for our emotions, and compassionately accepting them, we lay blame outside, often on the circumstance that has evoked the emotion in us.
The circumstance is simply the content, it is the process we must examine, our emotional needs, and feelings must be acknowledged, acccepted, hugged with love and laughter, and tickled with joy.