Responsibility and ownership

In Cheri Hubers' book "When you are falling, dive", she suggests to make a list of 10 things one thinks/believes to be unacceptable. Then slowly start to take things off the list, becoming aware of the discomfort and resistance we feel in doing this.

With this excersice she urges we ask the question "why do I resist taking these off the list" If the answer is "its because these define who I am, what I believe in". Then she urges we ask ourselves, "what is it that we are doing in our lives to help solve some of these unacceptable problems". If we are simply willing to list them and not doing anything about it, we are part of that problem.

This reinforces the points, "if it is in my world, its mine", its often not "your/her/his problem, its "our problem".

Taking responsibility and ownership of whats ours helps us accept, in a guilt and obligation free way.

It urges us to live, and let live without explanations and apologies; with complete authenticity, in the present, with full awareness and acceptace of our conditioned mind and beliefs. However not acting upon conditions, simply observing and releasing them.